Welcome to our family website.

This blog, which began as a therapeutic outlet during the wait for our daughter's arrival, morphed into a place to share feelings, ask for support, and flip through a virtual 'brag book' of photos. NOW, as we embark on our second adoption trek, please join us as we plan, pray, and travel again to the other side of the world to be united with the next piece of our family puzzle.

Peace & Blessings...Beth & Ron (and Hope too)

Monday, October 22, 2007

Couple of things to note...

Well, we've finished up our part of our 6 mo. post-placement report. I can't believe we're working on that already! We just need our home visit for it all to be complete I think. Incredible that Hope has officially been our daughter for that long! I was looking at some of our photos from China last week and absolutely can't believe how Hope has changed. She looked so tiny and vulnerable in those pictures. When we were in the moment, standing there embracing our new little daughter, we of course knew she was terrified and tried to respect her anxieties. But now, looking back, it is SO CLEAR that she was sad, grieving, and scared to her very core. We have tried to be good parents and hope that she is truly adjusting as well as we believe she is. Adoption is nothing short of a miracle! We believe that with our whole hearts and we hope that we are honoring God's plan in our lives through Hope. She is incredible! We can't wait to celebrate the 6 month milestone with her on Dec. 4. We are so blessed.

Other fun developements...LANGUAGE! Hope is signing more than ever and sometimes now without prompting. We get lots of "please" and "thank you." We're so proud! And, tonight for the first time we heard her say "help" clear as day!!!...when she dropped her fork on the floor during dinner. She is also saying "Grandma" and "Grandpa" now too. She has such a cute voice. I'd love to get some video, but she doesn't often say things just because we tell her to. Most often her language is used on her own terms. HMMM...could we have a toddler on our hands? :)

Now for the not so fun. I'm writing this here as my journal, not because I'm particularly proud of our evening yesterday. So, here goes. We had our worst parenting moment since we've been home. Hope's cries took us back to China and her 2 weeks of tears when we first met her. These are the kinds of cries that just rip at your heartstrings. These are cries of pain. Not cries of anger because she wants her snack. Not cries of frustration because she isn't quite strong enough to pull her blanket out from under the dog. Not cries of fatigue because she missed her nap. We're talking genuine pain. Our daughter doesn't cry when she falls or bumps her head on the table. She's a tough girl. So, last night when she cried for an hour and half when she twisted (or popped somehow?) her wrist playing with Ron we were scared. I was so ready to go for x-rays. But, we waited. I'm happy to report that after a little Culver's custard (and a good night's sleep) Hope is fine, but it sure was a hard night. She's using her hand, playing, eating, etc. normally today. She is showing no signs of being tentative about pushing her hand through sleeves to get dressed or get her coat on. Really, she's fine. But, HOLY COW did we suffer last night.

Sorry for the post without photos tonight. I'm having trouble linking to our other computer to pull them up. Maybe another night this week? We'll see what the evenings bring. Have a good week everyone.

Beth (& Ron & Hope, too)

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Beth,

I reread your profile. I think you may want to change the part about being a mom :)!!

Isn't adoption the most beautiful undescibeable joy ever? It is part of why I blog... to try and tell the world how amazing it is! No doubt, Hope is part of God's plan to bless you :)!

I am so glad to hear Hope is okay today. Scary to see your child hurting!!

Thank you for all your kind words to my blog. You have always been beyond generous and I dearly appreciate you!
"Meredith Teagarden"

Anonymous said...

It is always those first serious cries of pain that get to you. I hear YOUR pain. You got through it and it sounds like Hope is too. I'm glad to hear that.
Take care

AmyO said...

Sorry about your rough night. What do you think is going on? Grieving? Olivia hasn't had anything like that happen so far. When she falls or hits her head she does cry. So I'm not sure what to tell you. Best wishes :)

Anonymous said...

We are soo happy to hear that Hope is doing ok and nothing serious happened. What a stressful event.

Blessings
G, A, S, S, S